He Said, She Said - Long Distance Love
He Said - By Nathan Tinner
Relationships, in my own personal experience, are a big deal.
Too many people today are taking them for granted and running around with just about anybody who sounds cool on AOL Instant Messenger and pretending it’s love at first sight. First of all, there was no “sight”, so that can’t be.
This brings me to my main point. Long-distance relationships don’t work for a variety of reasons.
The principle one being that there is very little, if any, face-to-face interaction between two so-called lovebirds, and that makes things awkward, belittling, and downright pointless.
Two people can fall in love at first sight.
It is possible; but it’s strikingly rare, and the chances that two people who don’t even have that, the sensation of actually seeing the other person, can create or maintain a “see you never” courtship are slim to none. Being a guy, there’s already a forgone conclusion that we males judge potential mates dominantly by looks, and we all have to confess to turning our heads or craning our necks every once in a while to see something (or someone) we like.
If that really is the case for most guys, then most girls are in bad shape if they desire to sustain a long-distance relationship with any run-of-the-mill loverboy.
We won’t see you all of the time, but we will be around other girls who we can see and admire right there in proximity, which can lead to some pretty gruesome “cheating” incidents. Why?
All because she didn’t want to break it off and end things when her parents decided to move 3,000 miles away to Timbuktu.
I’ve seen enough relationships between friends and relatives go down the drain when two people tried to make it work cross-town, cross-county, or even cross-state, when they should have stopped struggling when it became “cross-eyed”.
Seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend when you want to is an essential part of a quality relationship, and long-distance relationships usually take that away from whoever is fighting land and sea to force a relationship that isn’t worth the trouble and risk.
All and all long-distance dating cannot and will not work so try and avoid it as much as possible.
It’s in the best interest of you your extended love life.
A peaceful break-up provides a shortcut around tension and future heartache, and calling your beauty in Texas everyday with today’s long-distance fees (don’t even get me started on gas prices, so there’s no face-time happening!) is just asking for trouble.
Here’s the deal: keep it local, or keep it out.
She Said - By Taylor Robinson
For most people in relationships, they feel it necessary to spend every waking moment together. While that’s perfectly fine, some people are trying to continue relationships with people that live on the other side of the state or even country.
Whether it be significant others going off to college or shipped off to basic training or just moving away, there are long distance relationships occurring every single day.
Is it really worth trying to keep in touch with the one you love when they’re moving? Long distance relationships can most certainly be done with a little determination and love.
A major factor in any relationship is trust. If you’re unable to trust someone when they’re at home, then you’re in a very unhealthy relationship from the get go, so it doesn’t matter whether it’s a long or short distance relationship. It’s not going to work out regardless. If you do have trust in your relationship then it’s definitely doable.
If you’re in a relationship with someone that is at home, it’s probably a fairly close relationship.
You participate in a lot of activities and have very little meaningful conversations because you’re too busy having fun.
When you’re in a relationship with someone you can’t see everyday, you’re relationship becomes more about talking and getting to know one another, and building a more emotional bond rather than physical.
Have you ever heard the quote, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”? In most cases, this quote is true. When you’re not able to see your significant other every day, you start to reminisce on the things you miss, the things that you used to “hate”. You start to wish you wouldn’t have taken your relationship for granted, and realize that what you have is something you really don’t want to lose.
For some people, they let their “lovers” become the center of their life and don’t focus on themselves. They focus solely on how they can spend time with their partner, and not focusing on their future, or their friends.
With long distance relationships you’re more able to focus on yourself and the things you want to accomplish and the friends that you may have totally ditched for your amazing significant other.
From personal experience, long distance relationships take a lot of work but can be done. Technology makes it a little easier nowadays.
With the internet, cell phones, and web cams it makes communication a little easier on the both of you.
So for anyone wondering whether or not long distance relationships are really worth trying. Go for it, if you’re willing to make the commitment.
